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Love thy neighbor, even the more talented pretty one

first_img Fr. Michael Neal says: August 27, 2012 at 9:27 am Great article…………………………..so true……………………..”Lord help me love more…….” Rector Tampa, FL Associate Rector for Family Ministries Anchorage, AK Rector Hopkinsville, KY Submit a Job Listing Assistant/Associate Rector Morristown, NJ Rector Martinsville, VA September 22, 2012 at 11:34 am Go to hulu.com Seminary of the Southwest announces appointment of two new full time faculty members Seminary of the Southwest August 20, 2012 at 5:51 pm How dearly right now in our lives in the Episcopal Church I would like to see many dozens of Abi present themselves for ordination in either gender. How I wish for many enviable young teachers, preachers and celebrants about whom to feel a twinge of jealousy. I wish to see them in choirs, as lectors reading and greeting us coming and going from the nave on Sundays. I have seen enough of dear, lovable sweet old faces, of fine but elderly men such as myself, difficult as that is to admit. Pretty, handsome, confident, a bit arrogant with youth. . please dear God, send in the saints of the order Abi. August 21, 2012 at 8:08 am Touche Danielle – I would add that starting with ‘I love you’ is rarely possible without being able to hold to the more primary possibility – ‘I love me.’ So, yes, it’s not as simple as building up our own self esteem, but finding new ways to embrace and settle the love of God in our souls, so that it might flow out toward others, becomes the task, Rector Albany, NY AddThis Sharing ButtonsShare to PrintFriendlyPrintFriendlyShare to FacebookFacebookShare to TwitterTwitterShare to EmailEmailShare to MoreAddThis Rector (FT or PT) Indian River, MI Youth Minister Lorton, VA August 21, 2012 at 1:13 pm Terry, excellent, thank you. ron New Berrigan Book With Episcopal Roots Cascade Books August 23, 2012 at 10:09 am Young adults, like anyone of any age, will attend church when they find that what they get out of attending is worth more than what they give up to do so. There is so much focus right now on how church services are formatted or how to “deliver” church to those who won’t attend a traditional service. These are good and important discussions, but changing the format and delivery methodology will only make a difference if attendees find the church’s messages relevant and relatable to their everyday lives and the community warm, welcoming, and supportive. Only then will attending church be worth giving up the opportunity to sleep in, catch up on chores, etc. Missioner for Disaster Resilience Sacramento, CA TryTank Experimental Lab and York St. John University of England Launch Survey to Study the Impact of Covid-19 on the Episcopal Church TryTank Experimental Lab August 20, 2012 at 4:50 pm What is ‘hulu’? 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Associate Rector Columbus, GA Danielle Tumminio[Episcopal News Service] This past month, Hulu released the second season of the British television show, “Rev.,” a kind of Vicar-of-Dibley-ten-years-later story about a male priest in inner-city London.But unlike the “Vicar of Dibley,” “Rev.” has a bite to its humor, as demonstrated by one of the latest episodes, in which the protagonist, the Rev. Adam Smallbone, gets a new curate named Abi Johnston.Rev. Abi is young and smart. She rearranges the vestry with the skill of a consultant from The Container Store. She confidently leads services and starts an initiative to grow the congregation.The archdeacon found her dissertation riveting.She’s polite. And pleasant. Indeed, Abi is polite and pleasant to a fault and so energetic that Adam wonders if she suffers from manic-depression.She does not.At one point in the episode, Adam watches Abi weave her fingers across the piano and prays, “She plays the piano as well, of course she does. Why have you sent this woman, Lord? I should be able to love her but I can’t. I’m jealous of her because she’s cleverer than me and kind and hard-working and she brings the liturgy alive and she fills the church. I bet she speaks Hebrew as well. And Aramaic. Why do I find her so irritating? …I’m going to try to love her. Love does not envy. [Pause] I want her to go away. Please make her go away.”My husband and I laughed—and cringed—as we watched this episode of “Rev.” We both knew the phenomenon of the Abi: There was my husband’s “frenemy” (friend + enemy) from college and the girl from my high school who was valedictorian, had an adorable boyfriend, played in the national orchestra, was state champion in the decathlon, and still slept eight hours a night.How do they do it? We wondered. And why is it so hard to love them?That, of course, is the question that we as Christians must ask if we are to fulfill Jesus’ mandate to love our neighbors. But such love is hard won. Many of us try all sorts of inner cognitive manipulation to allow us to love an Abi in our lives.Case in point: We might remind ourselves that an Abi is flawed and imperfect, just as we are. By virtue of being members of God’s created humanity, this person has weaknesses. That’s humanizing, we reason. That makes it easier to love. But while it’s true that all humans are fallible, here it’s merely justifying. We’re lessening the very real accomplishments of others in order to make ourselves feel better. That’s not really love.Or how about this cognitive manipulation: We try to distance ourselves from the Abi types, wagering that if we don’t interact with them, then they’re not really neighbors who require love.This, however—this isn’t real love either. It’s simply avoidance, because what we’re really doing is saying, “If I stay away from my Abi, then it doesn’t remind me how imperfect I am.”Which is, of course, what this is really all about.I would wager that ultimately, the reason Abi types are so hard to love has nothing to do with their skills or achievements but rather has a lot to do with how we perceive our own imperfections. In other words, when we encounter an Abi, we turn inward and ask ourselves, “Am I lovable if I’m not as smart/creative/energetic/efficient/fun/relaxed/rich as Abi is?”We fear the answer is no. No we’re not.And that, I think, is the greatest cognitive manipulation of all, because if God promises one thing, it’s that we are God’s beloved by virtue of our creation. Nothing interferes with that. So when we believe that our flaws and our imperfections make us unlovable, then we are distorting the essence our relationship with God as much as we are distorting our relationship with our neighbor.I’d like to say that an Abi wouldn’t feel so threatening if we all just had a little more self-confidence, but I think that’s too naïve. We have to change how we treat our neighbors too, because the reality is that we live in a competitive world in which we are judged for all sorts of things at all sorts of times. Very little in our lives goes uncalculated, unmeasured. Our job performance, our weight, our grades, our children’s grades, our gray hairs, our cars, our clothes, the type of cell phone we own, the books we read (or don’t read), whether or not we recycle, how many times we say “like” in a sentence….It’s daunting how very little is out of bounds.No wonder so many of us envy neighbors who seem to have what we lack.I can’t help but imagine how different our world would be if we started breaking these judgmental barriers down, if, we started with, “I love you,” instead of, “I judge you.”Of course, that’s exactly what God does. No matter what flaw we present, we are always God’s beloved—which doesn’t excuse us when we can do better, and it’s not meant to condone our mistakes, but it does send a loud and clear message that nothing we do makes us unlovable.And that realization, I think, makes it just a little easier to love an Abi when she crosses our path.– The Rev. Danielle Tumminio lectures at Yale University and is the author of “God and Harry Potter at Yale.” She currently serves as an interim associate at St. Anne in-the-Fields Episcopal Church in Lincoln, Massachusetts.Statements and opinions expressed in the articles and communications herein, are those of the author(s) and not necessarily those of Episcopal News Service or the Episcopal Church. August 21, 2012 at 4:41 pm I also think we who are jealous of others accomplishments, capabilities, personalities, possessions, et al are also a bit resentful of God for not bestowing us with similar talent, capabilities, and good fortune. “Why them and not me?” We ask-pray to God. Why have you chosen them and not me, to be, what I perceive to be, an easier, better, and/or more rewarding life?Your comments reminded me of St. Paul’s definition of love in 2nd Corinthians, “Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous; love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offence, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end.”It gives one pause to consider what one has to give up in order to be with love. Featured Events (The Rev.) Ronald L. Reed says: center_img Rector Knoxville, TN Bishop Diocesan Springfield, IL Family Ministry Coordinator Baton Rouge, LA Rector Pittsburgh, PA Submit an Event Listing Love thy neighbor, even the more talented pretty one August 21, 2012 at 8:42 am Praying for God to send us our Abi is good, but finding ways to reach out to young adults is better. Maybe we need to create services and programs and ways to facilitate their spiritual lives and needs. Yes, Abi does have needs. Her number one need is time. She needs more hours in everyday. So maybe Sunday morning isn’t good for her to be in church. She’s playing catch up on Sunday morning – with her kids, with her sleep, with her quiet time, with her laundry. What are we doing to try to meet her where she is and not where we are? Sometime God needs a little help from us – the spiritual beings with skin on them! Abi, her sister, her friends, her husband, his brother – they are all just so busy. It is not easy. It is not thinking as we, in another generation, think. So how important is it to find this other way, these other ways to reach out to the busy young adults – of all types? It’s just the entire future of our church. Look around at a service and see what the future of the church looks like, the immediate next generation. And also look at their faces. Are we meeting their needs? We have to look outside the box of our ideas and find some newer ones. Ideas to help Abi and her friends find their spiritual paths. Rector Shreveport, LA The Church Investment Group Commends the Taskforce on the Theology of Money on its report, The Theology of Money and Investing as Doing Theology Church Investment Group Rector and Chaplain Eugene, OR Episcopal Charities of the Diocese of New York Hires Reverend Kevin W. 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